作者项栋梁，联系邮箱 [email protected]
翻译Wesley, [email protected]
Author: Bob Xiang, Contact [email protected]
Translated by Wesley, [email protected]
性冲动常有，而性生活不常有，这是年轻人的常态。没有性生活这件事偶尔自黑挺好，但大可不必哀怨。
It is normal for young people to have a lot of sexual impulses, but in most cases, they do not have sex very often. It’s good to mock yourself occasionally about it, but really unnecessary to self-pity.
三点理由供参考：
Below are three reasons:
没有性生活，可能是因为你足够理性。
No sexual life might mean that you are reasonable enough.
性是需要高度信任的私密活动，一定程度上带有健康、名誉、财产等方面的危险性。如果没有互相充分信任的伴侣以及妥善的安全措施条件，暂时不过性生活是一种安全而明智的选择。为发泄生理欲望而冒险进行带有危险的性活动是不划算的。
Sex is a private activity requiring high level of trust with the potential of damaging your health, reputation and properties etc. if you don’t have a mutually fully trusted partner and appropriate protection, not having sex temporarily is a safe and wise choice. It is not cost-effective to risk having dangerous sex just for venting out your lust.
没有性生活，可能是因为你内心富足。
No sexual life might mean that you are spiritually rich.
性可以是权力的彰显，可以是魅力的证实，也可以是幻想的寄托，但上述这些心理需求并没有哪一样是只能通过性活动来实现的。性活动自有其难以替代的吸引力，但绝非无可替代。如果拥有足够精彩的精神生活，足够坚定的自我认知，则不必将精神满足最重要的一部分交给性生活。
Sex can be a power show-off, a confirmation of charm or an entrust of illusions, but none of the above psychological needs is exclusively available to sexual activities. Sex has its own unique attraction but it is far from indispensable. If you have an excellent spiritual life and firm self-recognition, you don’t have to place the most important part of your psychological needs to sex.
没有性生活，可能是因为你经历够多。
No sexual life might mean that you have experienced well enough.
与人类基因自带的众多精神奖赏机制一样，性生活带来的愉悦感受也是有边际效用递减和重复刺激疲劳的。当然，理想的伴侣关系是可以共同探索广阔世界不断创造新鲜感，但对绝大部分普通人来说，性生活也就那么回事。如果你经历够多，见过人性的广博，没有性生活也可以是一种主动选择。
As one of the many mechanisms in the human inherent reward system, the pleasant sex brings has the properties of diminishing marginal utility and repeated stimulation fatigue. Of course, ideal relationship brings endless freshness by exploring the vast world, but for most people, sex is just the way it is. If you have experienced enough, have seen the broad and profound of the humanity, not having sex can also be an active and valid choice.
我的一点个人经验，没有性生活的时候，可以唱唱歌：情感的表达，精力的释放，魅力的彰显，一站式齐活儿。
My personal experience is if you are not sexually active, you can sing songs, which is an expression of emotions, the vent of your energy and show-off of your charm, altogether.
当然，今夜拥有性生活的各位，那也是极好的。
Of course, for those who are to have sex tonight, it’s also
terrific.
作者项栋梁，联系邮箱 [email protected]
翻译Wesley, [email protected]
Author: Bob Xiang, Contact [email protected]
Translated by Wesley, [email protected]